Alex & Sierra - Say My Name
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Twelve years and she still makes the same expression when her name is called out in the nominee lineup
the total hot stuff Tom Daley just talked about his relationship with a guy and I can hear the gay guy world erupted into fireworks and the girls start weeping but:
Let’s revert to his YouTube message of five minutes and 26 seconds where he does not once mention the word “gay”, nor the phrases “gay relationship” or “coming out”. Instead, he refers to wanting to be honest; the fact that he has been vague but never lied about his personal life to the media and doesn’t intend to start now, and most importantly, expresses his desire to avoid being labelled by other people. So what do the media go do? Why, label him of course.
Technically speaking, if Daley has expressed that he “still fancies girls” but is dating a guy, it would be more accurate to report that he is bisexual. But bi-visibility in the media is a joke. Declaring yourself bisexual translates as meaning that you are one of just several things:attention-seeking and performative, promiscuous, or gay in denial to appease fans. What’s more, when it comes to bi-visibility, the mainstream LGBT media and community are just as guilty of reductionism. So is it any wonder that Daley would feel uncomfortable using such a loaded term when his modus operandi since he hit the world stage is to protect his privacy?
And besides, what if it’s not a term Daley feels accurately describes his sexuality right now? What if he doesn’t want to use a label at all, but simply relay to the world that he’s in a relationship that makes him feel great and that’s the end of it?